The Futile Love

Love is like a treasure without a map, its impossible to find.

No matter where you look the chances of finding *true* love are extremely limited especially in todays society. I have covered countless times what I beleive true love is, but how many other people out there hold what you as an individual think is true love, even to a simular degree.

Love is futiles, it simply places a reliance on another individual which in turn creates hurt and let down. If someone has truly found love then I congratulate you but for the majority out there looking the possibility of *true hurt* and *true anguish* is more so a possibility then *true love*.

Shall we give up? Its not in our nature but our nature as emotional and loving as it may be always seems to guide us down the path to pain instead of love.

Its a reality that stings.
Its a reality that hurts.
Its a reality that can only be taken away in dreams.
Fly on the wings of love, if only in your dreams.
Love is the missing link.

What People Say

Its a reality that just doesn't seem to be easily accepted. The fact is, people are unreliable. Regardless of what your impression of anybody may be, nobody will ever be 100% reliable if even 1%.

People say they will do this or that but why? Do you think honestly anybody really does anything for other people these days? I think not.

In todays society where people have been brought up the way they have a selfish attitude is always around the corner.

Where am I really going with this topic? Essentially I just want to advise everyone that pinning hopes on another individual or even a group of individuals is futile. In all reality the only person you can rely on is yourself but, have you ever found yourself feeling regret etc? This is essentialy you letting yourself, so if you as an individual let yourself down sometimes how is it ever possible to have faith in any external entity.

Its the painful truth, that is all it is.

Be weary people for the real world is truly a painful place to live, live for yourself as living for others hurts to much.

Failure of Life

Life is to live,

Love is to give,

Pain will hurt,
Hurt will pass,
The passing will hurt,
The hurting will kill,
The death is the way to end the suffering,
We want forgiveness,
We want happiness,
We fail at perfection,
We fail at giving,
We fail ourselves,
We have failed life...

Something a Little More Wild

Yes thats it folks I have cracked, I have decided to talk about sex. Now as I have said in previous posts I think sex has been abused and made into some ridiculous game where people will just go out and have sex with whoever they please, mostly males who end up hurting women but of course women do it too.

I think sex is act best left for when you love someone, sex can be wild and fun but of course its at its peak when you actually care for who you are with. I think in the modern world it is important to be a little wild and experiment. Now in my opinion its the guy who should be pleasing the girl, guys have hands and they rarely do much anyway so they can do themselves instead, and it doesn't talk much to finish a guy off.

As I have said previously it is important to have good communication in a relationship and for a great sex life, being able to talk about these kinds of issues is important too. If you want your partner to do something to you talk to them about it. If you want to do something to your partner and you are not sure if they would like it talk to them and ask them, you never know.

Live on the wild side too, sexual fantasies don't have to just be fantasies, of course they should be nice fantasies but with good communication talk to your partner about your fantasies and see if they are willing to make an exchange, your fantasy for one of theirs, fantasies carried out together can be very intimate and can mean a lot between couples.

I think in conclusion, it is a good idea to experiment during sex and have a good time, moans and screams can be very fun. Only ever have sex with someone you love and make it a goal to learn that persons body.

May you all have wild, fun and intimate times with those you love :P

Illuzian

The Love I Feel

She makes me happy just thinking of her
She makes me smile just to be talking to her
The love we feel is so amazing
The future we hold is so promising
My biggest fear is so sickening
I can feel the sadness thickening
Why do we hold these insecurities
Why do we make these fears
All I know is I love her
And I know in my hear she loves me
For it is so easy to love and so easy to fear
All I know is I can feel her near
Near my heart near my soul
It is like destiny
I want to be with her for eternity
May I be at ease
Knowing we will be together forever

Love.. Amazing

Have you ever loved someone so much, but not been by their side? Have you ever worried about someone and not been able to hug them when they come home? Have you ever care so much it hurts you? I Am so happy right now, I found someone special, But she lives a little distantance away, I just want to be there with her.

I live my illusion, one moment at a time
I live for love every moment in time
I want happiness like every one of you do
I want nobody but my special somebody
That special somebody fills all my desires and dreams
Let me be with that somebody for that is all I want
All I live for is love, And this feels like a dream

Love In a Modern World

Love is quite amazing, the feeling of love, the power of love and the way we react to love is all quite amazing. I think It is one of the most beautiful experiences one can have. This leads me to discuss in depth my thoughts on love itself.

I think love to me at least is caring for someone, making that person you care about happy and doing everything in your power to satisfy them and their needs, I think the feeling itself is also relevant but that really is indescribable, I can only advise those who would like to have an example will need to feel It first.

When one is in a relationship I think it should be essential to commit and also to be as selfless as possible, of course it isn’t possible to be perfect but on the same note one should strive to be perfect for that person, of course this should not involve changing who you are, but of course if you are completely selfless it could result in that.

In regards to selflessness, I think it is also essential to develop a good trust with your partner, some people have a hard time trusting but one must question this, if one does not trust this is very unhealthy. Think of it in a “Trust until proven otherwise”. Question your thinking, has the person ever broken your trust? If not there is really no need to worry.

I think like in every day life one should also watch their actions when they are in a relationship, when one becomes jealous, question the jealousy and see if you honestly have reason to be jealous, if you feel yourself getting upset or angry restrain yourself and ask yourself why this emotion has arisen.

I also think that good communication is very essential in all forms of love, you must talk to the person you are in a relationship with and be completely open to discuss anything, you must be diplomatic, do not react too much when you discuss topics you may not both agree on, be sure to allow your partner to have free will as well. This leads me to forgiveness and how important this can be.

When one is in a relationship it is important to consider that no one person is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, I am sure trust can be broken but it is also important to forgive your partner if you have a flourishing relationship but obviously when too much has been done to you then it is obviously important for you to consider leaving such a relationship.

I once heard a monk say if you want commitment marry a swan.. I think that can be very true, but what may seem like a good idea for all is to act like a swan, care take your partner, see them as equals and think of your actions and really question your emotions. I think commitment and openness is also truly essential.

Now I would like to discuss the things I think ruin relationships, I think it is also a good idea to be aware of the things that can damage a good relationship so as to prevent these things from occurring.

Now the main things I think ruin relationships are a lack of communication, selfishness, lack of control, lack of trust, too much stress and intensity, not balancing your life together, trying to change or control the other person

In regards to communication, I did address this earlier and as stated it is good to be open and communicate with your partner, if this does not occur it can result in a lack of trust or just a lack of interest also.

As I stated earlier selflessness is beneficial to a relationship, when one becomes selfish they forming expectations, when these are not satisfied one will get upset or disappointed, also a lack of trust can also occur when expectations are created, for example expecting your partner to spend time with you but they go off with a friend. I think it is essential to be as selfless as possible. Also the selflessness plays a part of being self controlled.

Self control is important, one must be able to restrain from overreact in a negative way, failure to do this usually results in your partner not being able to cope or being scare of you, this is not something that is of any benefit to oneself, also it is a hard error to mend.

The issue of trust I have addressed in this text many times before, a lack of trust can result in arguments, it can result in paranoia and also create many other negativities. Let go of your self question and be free to trust, for you will find it hard to establish firm ground in any relationship.

Stress is one thing that many people find hard to deal with, I think balancing a relationship is important in stress control. When you are with someone you need to be able to spend a decent amount of time with someone without smothering them, Spending little time together can result in a communication breakdown and spending too much time together can result in boredom, and of course conflict. When one enters a relationship it is important to pursue that which interests you outside of the relationship and maintain ones friendships, of course it is also important to do things together. Maintaining a balance in a relationship helps keep stress levels at a minimum.

I think accepting the person you are with is also important, nobody is perfect, if you have conflicting interests do not try to sway your partner or change your partner to like something they don’t want to like. If you are completely accepting of the person you love this will make your relationship that much easier.

In conclusion I honestly think that love is a wonderful thing but it seems people are loosing interest in each other and pursuing the wrong things, I think if we try to follow these simple ideas and be aware of ourselves we will live much happier and our relationships will be so much more rewarding.

May you all find true love and happiness

Selfishness and the World

Recently I was thinking about a few things, selfishness and love, obviously in this post I will be discussing Selfishness.

I think the problem we have in the modern world is people really don’t consider other people anymore, I find this to be the cause of war, the cause of suffering and the cause of pain in most circumstances. I also think this same reason is one of the primary reasons for relationship breakdown with partners and also friends.

I think in the essence of things people do things for themselves, even doing things for others is generally for your own benefit. I think though that doing something for someone else is and feeling good about it is better then doing something solely for oneself, this does benefit yourself but obviously is doing much good at the same time.

I think it is wise to consider your actions on a whole when committing to them, if a friend wants to go out, go out with them and make them happy, don’t make people do what you want them to. In a relationship try to be completely selfless, aspire to make that special person happy.

Of course on the same token I would like to say that being completely selfless to the point where it makes you sick is not good, you need to take care of yourself, if you do not then you will not be able to perform your normal tasks to benefit others.. sometimes looking after yourself is of more benefit. Also think of the people that care for you, they may worry about you if you wear yourself down.

In conclusion I think that people need to consider the people that will be impacted through their actions, whether this be their friends, the next generation or their loved ones.

May you all be happy.