Sleepless Nights

Lying here, unable to sleep,
Nothing I can do, just end up thinking of you,
It might sound a little weak,
But it is such a feat, something that’s impossible to beat,
That fact that I’m with you.

Honesty, Love, and Other Variations of Definition In Modern Society

In modern society it seems a lot of words or concepts have had a change of definition. These vary from words/concepts such as: Honesty, Friendship, Love, Happiness and many others. Unfortunately for the few of us who still try to adhere to the "old" way of thinking it can cause conflicting signals within out minds and result in a irrational thinking.

Love is probably the broadest statement any one person can make, now aside from my previous discussions on the topic of Love lets try and find the modern day definition of "relationship love". Relationship love seems to be a very two way thing, when both parties are exchanging a said "love currency" (hugs, sex, money, cuddles, affection etc) it appears that both parties seem to be content for a certain period of time but of course this is a very materialistic viewpoint. Unfortunately the downside here is that one person eventually gets frustrated or tries to leave.

Unfortunately when a person tries to disconnect themselves there doesn't seem to be any slack given to the "mistake maker", it seems to be a simple case of move on and forget the other person even existed. This is somewhat unfortunate as "real Love" is a currency that seems to be lost in a world where everything but materialism is futile.

A lot of people have their own personal demons, these can affect their Friendships, Loves, Happiness and a lot of other things in their life. I think it really is time for the world to wake up and say "you matter as well and I understand your not perfect" remember we all have our own flaws too, forgiveness is a great gift.

-Ant

Helping Others Makes Everything Better

Helping others makes things so much better. When your down you can do many things to make yourself feel better, channeling your energy into a hobby or something creative is always good, reading, relaxing, all these things can put your mind at ease however, helping someone else can make a world of difference.

When you have compassion for others and care about them you have the ability to help them, having compassion and love for everyone is important. When you help someone else with a problem it gives you a sense of true reward. Helping others can also help solve your own problems, when the world gets you down and you channel your strength into helping someone else, the solutions you provide can help you find answers to your own problems and in most cases see that your problems can have solutions.

Offer your hand to someone in need, it will give you more benefit than you think.

What can I do for you?

What can I do for you? It's a question and a way of thinking that I have neglected so very readily these past months or years even. People tend to focus on themselves a lot or focus on making an impression, being the centre of attention. This isn't something we generally do without realizing it, and if we do realize it, its generally too late. The good news with realizing anything is that you can at least do something.

Moving forward and realizing our mistakes is a positive step towards self improvement. I'm definitely no expert and probably could be dubbed a "slow learner" in many areas of my life. Certain events aren't worth beating yourself up and if you are going to think over and over about them, make it constructive.

In your thoughts think about where you went wrong, now ask yourself, was the focus too much on you? If yes then figure out ways of channelling your energy back out in positive ways.

Of course you can't drain your energy, you need to look after you sometimes. One cannot channel their energy outwards unless they have some inner energy to power their efforts.

The key points here are: Focus on giving, Look after yourself, Be positive.

Anyways thats enough from me. Be positive and SMILE!

Still Holding On

The problem with relationships is that we get used to what we have and when it goes we miss it. Once we are forced to move on from someone we sometimes try to replace it by looking for the traits of our previous partner in someone else. Unfortunately looking for this is unproductive and causes us more pain than its worth. The key is to let go and move on from what you had with that person.

The advice I give to those who start looking back on their past relationship when with a new partner is stick it out, some people tend to give in on new relationships because they think that a new one wont be as rewarding as the previous one but sometimes forcing yourself to see the new person for who they are and seeing if you like what they are can be the best way to get over someone.

Getting over someone who you have loved an incredible amount can be a big effort but it is possible if you first realize your not over them. Come one all you people with broken hearts, smile and look to bring down your walls.

Haunted

Feelings emotions fade in an out,
The past thats follows me,
Love lost in my ear it shouts,
Look there and see,
Move forward for the past is history.

You Can Have Success and Find Love

In life we get to down on ourselves, we always say "I wish" but never look to what we can actually do to get to a destination. Success isn't that unachievable like I mentioned in an earlier post. All one has to do in life is find what it is one can have and find out what one needs to do to get to their destination.

You must not let negative thoughts ever get in your way, this is critical. The path to a destination usually never goes without problems but if you truly aim towards your goal and hurdle or roadblock is passable.

Certain journeys however may require one to just be patient and use the focus of your mind to achieve them. The mind is a powerful thing. Finding love is one of those things you need to be patient with but it will come, just keep wanting it but maybe stop looking for it, ignore it for a while and it should come to your door looking to be let in with loving arms.

I again implore everyone out there to never give up on their dreams and never stop pushing through live aiming towards their goals. Start waiting for love and stop looking, keep being positive and keep wanting it but don't put your focus on one thing.

Don’t Look for Love

Looking for love is, as I have learned something that is very unproductive. It is finally that I have given up looking, I simply do not care anymore. You try ever so hard with all your imperfections but whatever you find.. it falls over and you get nowhere.

You find someone that you care for deeply but they end up leaving you, running away, you endure the most painful and impossible scenarios but its not you at fault anymore.. you shouldn't of even tried as the other person is never as willing as you are.

You think you have gotten past the pain but then out of nowhere.. a dream comes with a depressing opening of your eyes into the world, you wish that you had never met that person, you wish you really were over them.

You finally accept that you are still not over them accepting that it may take some more time, don't look for love let it look for you because if you look for love your curse will be pain looking for you.