People have a tendency to hold things back and let them boil inside. We may have for example lost a love one. After initially feeling the pain we then hold it back so that we can apparently "move forward through life". Unfortunately this method of coping with things is unproductive and does more damage than good.
When you hold things back you put up walls that you may not be aware that you have built. You may not be able to let new things into your life. Accepting the fact that what you have lost is gone, reflecting on the good times and harbouring the memory is the only thing I can recommend that you do. If we live life by ignoring the pain, ignoring the feelings we have and trying to erase memories we will fall into a pit that we may not be able to escape from. Face the pain for it is an experience worth having to move forward, but make sure you harbour the acceptance of loss as soon as you are ready.
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